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Top Four Relationship Myths at the Workplace

relationshipBeing nice is great, but if it is perceived as insincere or artificial you will be sniffed out immediately. Instead of niceness focus on listening; the ability to listen will move you further in your relationships than the desire to be liked, which is where niceness comes from.

relationshipBeing nice is great, but if it is perceived as insincere or artificial you will be sniffed out immediately. Instead of niceness focus on listening; the ability to listen will move you further in your relationships than the desire to be liked, which is where niceness comes from.

” when niceness is too important you find yourself allowing your boundaries to be violated a bit, because the assessment of niceness is more important that what you really want.”

Also, when niceness is too important you find yourself allowing your boundaries to be violated a bit, because the assessment of niceness is more important that what you really want.

For instance, if someone asks, “The conference room is booked during lunch; can we use your office for a meeting?” If you want to seem like a team player, you might say yes, when in fact after you do, you feel terrible because you really wanted to use that time to catch up on a few things. Before you say yes, compromise yourself, or give up something check in and ask “How will I feel if I say yes?” and wait to see what the feeling is before you answer. They will find another place to meet.

Wearing a Suit Everyday Makes You Look Important

Wearing a suit is great, if that’s what your clients dictate, but in this more casual work environment, you also want to look approachable, so you may want to vary wearing a suit some days with a casual Friday business look on down days or a mix and match relaxed look for others. The challenge is to look professional without looking stuffy. I’ve been interviewing accountants lately and I’m actually turned off by the ones who are wearing suits. For me it looks too artificial, like they’re trying to hard. On the other hand, when I’ve got a seminar, I always wear a suit, because it tells the audience I hold the session to be important.

The Organizational Rules are Spoken

When you take on a new job, there are some rules that are very clear (be here at 9am) and others that are not (put all incoming information on the bosses’ chair not her desk). In order to shortcut the learning process watch and observe how people dress, how they speak to each other, and what moves people make to be successful in the organization.

“In order to shortcut the learning process watch and observe how people dress, how they speak to each other, and what moves people make to be successful in the organization.”

See if you can connect with someone early on and ask them to decipher the invisible rules of your organization’s culture.

Working Hard Will Get You Ahead

Working hard is great, and will certainly help, but really what contributes to this is creating positive relationships at every level in the organization, while you work hard. The way to have good relationships goes back to what is mentioned in the first myth, being able to listen. The more you can ask good questions, listen to what people have to say, find place of overlap in your interest, the more you will be able to have the connections, the dynamics, the interactions, and ultimately the success you’re looking for.